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Anatomy of a frisky outfit


Brenda visits Boonfly in Urban Chic outfit on Brenda Kinsel website

Going Urban Chic to Boon Fly Cafe for Brunch


Sometimes getting dressed is frisky business.

There are other ways to feel frisky of course. Some people may play a prank on loved ones like when Mother wrote handwritten notes and put them inside of sandwiches she packed for my cousins when they were heading back to their home in Washington. She must have giggled half the day just thinking about that moment when Carolyn and John would pull those sandwiches out and discover her love notes.

Someone else may take a picture of a friend’s pet and go to the MyTalkingPet app on their phone. They’ll get the pet’s mouth to move and say something funny and then they’ll text it their friend. Anticipating that hilarious roar when the friend views it is as much fun for the person who made it as the person receiving it.

Sometimes I create an outfit that has me chuckling on the inside for the whole day. That’s what I did this weekend.


Mixing odd things together


On our cloudy Saturday in Sonoma last weekend, Russ and I decided to go to Boon Fly Cafe to have brunch.


Wearing Carmen Marc Valvo with Lululemon on Brenda Kinsel website

Lululemon and Carmen Marc Valvo come together in this frisky outfit.


I had an idea: What if I paired my gray Lululemon soft base layer T-shirt with thumbholes with my Carmen Marc Valvo cropped wool crepe jacket with silk trim?

Both pieces have lived in my closet for years but never encountered each other. I bought the Lululemon piece five years ago when I was traveling to Sydney, Australia and New Zealand to train image consultants.

I bought the dressy jacket on sale at Bergdorf Goodman in NYC a couple of days after delivering a training to the AICI New York Tri-State chapter of image consultants. That might have been eight years ago!

Normally I wear the thin Lululemon T-shirt as my first layer when hiking in the Sonoma hills. Here’s a  similar one. I wear the Carmen Marc Valvo jacket over pretty sleeveless dresses for infrequent dressy affairs.


Saturday lunch at Boonfly on Brenda Kinsel website

Brunch at Boon Fly Cafe on Saturday


I decided to wear those two pieces with my DKNY slim ponté knit pants. I added a silk and wool infinity scarf, a gift from a friend, only instead of using it as an infinity scarf, I tied a low knot in it so it hung more like a loose necktie.


Next came the urban accessories


I wanted to create more of an urban edge to the ladylike jacket so I grabbed my metal cuffs and put them on the outside of  the tee. I used my Calleen Cordero studded wide leather cuff on one arm. I added an I-can’t-remember-the-artist’s-name thin hammered cuff with hematites on the other arm (purchased at Oska in Mill Valley). I added two rings and then my gunmetal hoop earrings (from Gallery of Jewels in San Francisco). I wore my recently purchased Lucky Brand black suede perforated Basel booties on my feet.


Bracelets worn at Boonfly on Brenda Kinsel Website

Boon Fly Bracelets



Urban jewelry in Sonoma on Brenda Kinsel website

Keeping the wrists urban


I was entertained all day by the little joke I was playing: putting athletic wear with evening wear and in my opinion, pulling it off!

I love the neutral colors of black, gray, and taupe together.

I love any excuse to wear my cuffs. I thought of my wonderful friend when I wore the scarf. I delighted in the memory of shopping at Bergdorf’s. I loved thinking of all my image consulting friends from NYC, Sydney, and New Zealand. And I loved being with my sweetheart all day (it was a long wait at Boon Fly!), and their Virgin Bloody Mary with bacon was pretty fun too.

I’m not sure how much my outfit set the tone for the day. If I had to guess, I think it was quite a lot!

Do you get frisky with outfits?


Mixing and matching athletic and dress on Brenda Kinsel website

Feeling urban dressy in my athletic top and my dressy jacket





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  • Reply
    Lisa White
    March 22, 2016 at 6:25 am

    Love this look on you..the different levels of the layers and added boldness of the jewelry. You look ready for a day of fun and adventure…frisky, youthful, vibrant, and fun! Frisky works for me!

    • Reply
      March 22, 2016 at 7:51 am

      Love those words you used: frisky, youthful, vibrant, fun.
      Yup, I’d love to order that off the fashion menu nearly every day!

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    March 22, 2016 at 6:46 am

    What a great outfit! You inspire me!

    • Reply
      March 22, 2016 at 7:52 am

      Thanks, Colleen!!

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    Jodie filogomo
    March 22, 2016 at 4:28 pm

    It’s been my new favorite to try totally different items together! I once read it as dichotomy and my mother is probably so tired of hearing it put that way since I’m constantly trying to push her out of the box. Once I tried a sequin dress with my sneakers—it probably wasn’t my best outfit ever, but I loved the idea of it!! So this outfit definitely resonates with me—-and I love the variety of that way to tie an infinity scarf—brilliant!! jodie

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      March 22, 2016 at 5:26 pm

      Thanks, Jodie! I can just see the sequins and the sneakers!!

  • Reply
    March 22, 2016 at 4:40 pm

    I love the juxtaposition of the categories of the top and jacket; it’s wonderful that they play so well together. I love both the ideas of tying the infinity scarf and of wearing jewelry over long sleeves. I’ll be trying both of those soon.

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      March 22, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      Yes, I love when clothes play well together! Enjoy your new accessory tricks!

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    March 24, 2016 at 3:31 pm

    Brenda, there is something so wonderful about the black and this blue together. The shorter and longer sleeves have a youthful yet sophisticated look. You look fantastic. Love it!


    • Reply
      March 28, 2016 at 1:47 pm

      Thanks, Linda! I hadn’t thought of the sleeve lengths having a youthful look but that is exactly what I want to have! Thanks for pointing that out!

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    April 14, 2018 at 12:04 pm

    Love all these ideas!

    • Reply
      April 17, 2018 at 10:22 am


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