Erin and I are in dressing rooms and closets with clients stripped down to their bras and underwear several days a week. It’s a no-big-deal thing.
I wasn’t expecting to be busted and embarrassed when I was in a Nordstrom dressing room alone with my daughter Erin after work one day, trying on a dress that had been altered. It was a graphic Anne Klein tent dress that came into the girl’s consignment store, SAX. Erin wanted it but it was actually cuter on me! It just needed some tweaking at the neck to fit better. I was striped down to my undies (that no-big-deal thing), about to slip the dress over my head to see if it fit right when she immediately noticed the thing I’d been rigorously not noticing for some time.
“Mom, your underwear is disgusting.” She wasn’t talking about my bra. I took care of bra updates a few months ago. She was talking about the slouchy panties I was wearing.
In spite of everything my mother taught me, I’ve been engaged in risky behavior for several months. “What if you get hit by a car and the ambulance takes you to the ER and you have bad underwear on?” she said. Yours did too, right? Mine weren’t dirty, they were just not fitting like a proper lady’s panty should fit.
Let’s just expose this threat for what it is. If I’m sent to the emergency room because I’ve been in an accident, doctors and nurses would have more pressing things on their minds than registering whether my underwear was clean, dirty, pretty, or shabby, right? Wouldn’t they be busy enough with the broken femur or the deep gash on my thigh to even notice my panties? (An expert gives her opinion in a minute. Stay tuned.)
If you ignore loose panties, they get ideas
Since changing my diet, I’ve shed some pounds. I made necessary size adjustments when my jeans got baggy. I also bought smaller sweaters that weren’t looking baggy. But panty shopping wasn’t on my radar. I remember how long it took me to buy bigger sized panties back when I’d gotten bigger. It was the same thing now, only in reverse: ignore, ignore, ignore until I could ignore no longer.
When I’m working with my clients I am on my feet and on the move for hours straight. If we’re shopping, I’m registering thousands of steps on my Fitbit running around a large department store or marching the length of the mall ducking in and out of multiple stores.
When I’m out and about in a professional setting, it’s not the time when I want to feel my panties heading south. Since they’re no longer clinging to my hips the way they used to, they get ideas of their own. “Hey,” they say, “let’s go exploring! I can see skin down there for miles! Let’s go check out those bony knobs down there.” My knees. Yes, they want to explore my knees. Did I mention I’m wearing a dress?
Trying the bow-legged trick
Have you watched old western movies where after that long dusty ride out of Cheyenne, Wyoming, the cowboy finds the shade of an old oak tree and gets off his horse? He’s planning his next moves after robbing the bank back there in Cheyenne in broad daylight. He’s in Levi’s 501 jeans, boots with scratches all over them from being in scrapes with the law, and a cowboy hat lined in sweat. You see him walk a few paces and his legs are bowed.
Well, that’s the image I had in my mind, a bow-legged cowboy, as I sensed my panties about to make their move. I thought if I walked like a bow-legged cowboy, maybe my panties wouldn’t hit the floor of the designer section of Nordstrom while shopping with my client.
It wasn’t until my dow-eyed daughter uttered those five words later that afternoon when our client had left and we were in the dressing room together, Mom, your underwear is disgusting, that I knew I had hit bottom.
I wore pants only until the weekend came around when I went over to McCaulogh’s department store in the corner of a strip mall in Sonoma. It’s small, but it has underwear! I looked at the selections and decided to try a Vanity Fair Illumination Hi Cut Panty. They had them in only black and nude. I bought one of each. They felt great. By Sunday I was online and ordered the same style but in more colors.
Safe to wear dresses again
I am oh-so-happy. I may acquire some variety but for now, the problem is fixed.
I read a blog post on granny panties by Jennifer Connelly. It’s here on her blog A Well Styled Life. She’s singing the praises of granny panties and after looking through her list of examples, I’m going to be trying some of those, too.
Bonus panty news
I was at a soft opening of Tony’s Seafood in Marshall. Hog Island Oyster Company is the new owner. Anyway, my friend Debra’s sister Laura was sitting across from me. She was telling me how she’d read my post about Debra wishing she had different lingerie on when she awoke from her grand mal seizure to see the gorgeous paramedics peering down at her at 4:30 in the morning. (Women Now: Finding the giggle and the fashion in a paramedic experience.) She said, “I read that and thought I need new lingerie!”
She works in hospitals; I had to ask. “Laura, I’m writing a blog post about panties and maybe you could answer my question. Don’t you think doctors are too busy dealing with the medical emergency to notice someone’s underwear when they’re in the ER?”
If you could see Laura’s face when she answered me you’d take your mother’s advice for sure. “Oh, we can’t help but notice! We have to take them off people and we have to dispose them. We are definitely in contact with people’s underwear. And it’s mostly not good.” (Imagine scrunched up nose.)
THEN, the next day I was in J.James chatting with Annie and Valerie. Underwear came up again! Annie was telling about when she broke her arm and her sister was going to take her to the hospital. In this case, she had risqué underwear on. “You have to help me change my underwear,” Annie said with panic in her voice. “I know everyone in town! I know the doctors and nurses! I can’t be seen in this underwear!”
Her sister insisted they wouldn’t be seeing her underwear as she had a broken arm, not a broken leg. “No, no, no! You have to help me,” Annie said. Her sis complied.
Annie went to the hospital in the right kind of underwear to be seen by all her friends only her sister was right. They only saw her from her waist up.
So, with these two stories in mind, are you, like me, thinking about your underwear right this second?
You guys told me about your paramedic experiences when I wrote about Debra’s; do you have underwear stories to share? Or how about brands you love? Let’s keep this subject rolling!
DianeAugust 2, 2017 at 12:12 pm
Oh, I can’t stop giggling. They do take the strangest times to make their escapes. I was walking into a restaurant to meet the rest of the family, when I felt something slipping over my hips… I had on those long lace, (what we used to call petti pants) and they were heading south, with a skirt on. My husband said ‘let’s pop over to the thrift store next street over and get a belt, which we did and I hiked everything up under the belt and did it tight. No one the wiser, and the belt was actually cute. A change in weight should always mean a trip to the lingerie store. But do we listen….
Your dress is really gorgeous. Nothing peeking out. I will have a look for that style of panties. Thanks for the smiles.
BrendaAugust 2, 2017 at 7:32 pm
Oh Diane, I was hoping for panty stories like yours and you delivered! That’s hilarious! Good for you that you have a husband who had a quick solution. Now I have the giggles!!!!
Emma CookAugust 2, 2017 at 5:05 pm
I like Vanity Fair but only the nylon ones. Sometimes you see women in dresses and the dress is bunched up in back because they are wearing cotton panties and the material doesn’t slide. (Know what I’m trying to say?) Especially knit dresses over cotton panties. I don’t like the feel of hip hugger or high thigh panties, either, because I don’t like the feel of jeans on my bare tummy. Fully coverage for me…guess the younger girls call them granny panties.
BrendaAugust 2, 2017 at 7:33 pm
I know, right? It takes a few tries to find the panties that fit just right and do the trick. I’m not flinching at all at the thought of granny panties this day. We deserve the comfort!!!!
LizAugust 2, 2017 at 5:38 pm
Here’s something I have noticed, and it puzzles me–I work out frequently in a gym, as do a fair number of women my age who belong to the same club.
This puzzles me, though: most of us older ladies have nice figures thanks to the exercise, but very few of us wear nice underwear. I’m not talking about underwear to exercise in, I’m talking about what women put on when they dress to go home or back to the office.
There are a lot of dingy white or beige granny panties and bras, and yes, they usually are way too big.
Now, I don’t necessarily expect to see lacy thongs or wild colors (I have never liked the way thong panties feel, myself, and bright colors do have a tendency to show through summer clothes). Nobody has to look like the hottest of hot Frederick’s of Hollywood model or spend a fortune on matching sets from France–nice underwear comes in a great variety of price points.
But baggy, saggy, pully, dingy underwear that looks like it pulled through the Great Depression? How depressing.
If we work to keep our bodies in working order, why not enjoy them? Even if we’re the only ones who see the underwear and it’s just to celebrate ourselves?
BrendaAugust 2, 2017 at 8:10 pm
Loved your rant, Liz. Especially loved your description of the underwear that pulled through the Great Depression! I’m not a member of a gym so I’m not seeing what you’re seeing but I think you’re right on target. We should be enjoying our underwear! You’re inspiring me to search out more variety now that my crises is over. The style I got is one that has always fit me well. I did go through a period, a long period actually, of wearing thong underwear. It worked at the time and I had variety and enjoyed picking them out each day. But the clothes I wear don’t really warrant that style anymore.
My only suggestion for taking action on this matter is to be the ambassador of pretty underwear. Maybe you’ll inspire everyone at the gym and slowly but surely everyone will be in a sea of pretty panties.
AnnAugust 3, 2017 at 2:01 am
Nope, no stories to share. Just red-faced that I’m also in the same situation — after losing a lot of weight several years ago I’m still wearing some of the grungiest and biggest panties known to ER personnel. You’re right! I MUST remedy this!
BrendaAugust 3, 2017 at 9:45 am
You must and you will. Have fun doing that and I’m happy about the timing of this post! You’ll love new panties, Ann!
JudyAugust 3, 2017 at 4:19 am
Oh my gosh Brenda…this post couldn’t have come at a more opportune time! My “panties” are pitiful. And I think my washing machine is eating them b/c I’m down to about 6 pair and I know I had/have a lot more than that. I was just thinking that I need to buy some new ones but didn’t know what to get. I’ve bought the same ones for years at Penneys (don’t judge – LOL) but it’s time to retire those and get a newer style. They are definately “granny” panties! I’ve got a hair appointment later today so guess what I’ll be shopping for after that!
BrendaAugust 3, 2017 at 9:47 am
Judy, it’s so fun knowing what you’re going to be doing today! I don’t judge Penny’s panties at all! But pitiful panties do need to go. Have fun, my friend!
LauriceAugust 3, 2017 at 4:31 am
You crack me up! I have to confess that I didn’t wear any undies at all for about 30 years, and only started because I was on holiday in Paris one summer and there was chafing that had to be taken care of. (Thank goodness I didn’t have any accidents in those commando years.) As a result I have no idea what to buy – in Paris I went to the nearest discount store and made a wild guess at size. Then went back the next day and bought a pack of 3 the next size up. I hate the very idea of thongs (why bother?), and I’d happily wear granny panties in the winter, if only to add an extra layer of warmth. But as for everyday wear – not a clue.
BrendaAugust 3, 2017 at 9:49 am
Well, Laurice, you have some discovering to do! I am all for trying one pair, seeing if you like it, and then going back for more. Gosh, the right ones make us forget all about our panties. I think that’s the point! Would you consider granny panties for everyday wear?
CaraAugust 3, 2017 at 5:15 am
I love boy-cut underwear, and it’s difficult to find in all cotton, which is what I wear. I also wear briefs & gps in all cotton. I hit the jackpot in a thrift store in NYC where a ton of cotton underwear must have been donated by a manufacturer switching their line. I think I have about 25 pairs!
BrendaAugust 3, 2017 at 9:50 am
Wow, Cara, that is a score! Don’t you just love when that magic happens?
Connie MillerAugust 3, 2017 at 5:56 am
Ok – I’m new to this site but I have to share: In the 70s, I took a month long backpacking trip to Europe. Before I left, a friend gave me a package of disposable underwear. Our first day in London, I was in jeans all day. At the end of the day, we did a quick stop into the hostel where we were to stay. I quickly changed from jeans into a cute mini-skirt for dinner (remember, it was the 70s). As we were walking to dinner, one of my friends behind me asked what was falling out from under my skirt. The jeans must have been rubbing on the disposable underwear all day and they had shredded. Little pieces of paper-towel-like fabric were dropping off my rear and drifting down like snowflakes. By the end of the night, I was left with elastic bands, seams and a crotch with little else but shreds of paper hanging on for dear life. At 20 years old (in mixed company), it was incredibly embarrassing. But it left me with a funny story to tell and one that I will never live down!
BrendaAugust 3, 2017 at 9:51 am
Oh, Connie, this has me rolling on the floor! I just know I won’t be the only one!!! Thank you for this fabulous panty story!! And I’m so glad you’re here on the blog! Welcome!
Kathleen O'BrienAugust 3, 2017 at 8:34 am
Oh my goodness – I heard my mom’s voice loud and clear! And it’s a double whammy, she was a emergency room nurse! And yes, they saw it all, and hence the admonishment from her vast experience, Yikes! I never wanted to be that person. I’ve been wearing those VF panties for years – my very favorite. However, when wearing a dress, the thighs just seem to want to kiss each other all day long, and especially in the heat, I can’t stand it! Enter Undersummers, which I found on-line, tried one pair and when back and ordered a few more pairs. Lovely, comfortable and no more constant kissing. Now the only thing I wear under dresses.
BrendaAugust 3, 2017 at 10:00 am
You know when my mom said that about underwear, she was a farmer’s wife in North Dakota, not an EMERGENCY NURSE! Wow! Thanks for sharing this resource. I’ll have to check them out! I’m sure other readers will love to know about this too! Thanks, Kathleen!
KATHYSUEAugust 3, 2017 at 9:45 am
Oh how I love your stories!! You ordered the same panties I wear, they are wonderful, they do change them from time to time but they always seem to have the high cut leg. I like them the best!! Loved your story and it is a good reminder. My Mom told me a story of an older lady that had on panties in the late 1800’s and they fell off on her walk and she promptly kicked them to the curb and continued walking like any proper lady would do, so it really can happen ladies. LOL!! Keep doing what you do so well, Brenda, write, inspire and show and tell!!
BrendaAugust 3, 2017 at 10:05 am
Kathysue, that story is precious!!!! “The show must go on” is what came to my mind. I’m getting a good laugh out of this! You know, my little department store doesn’t have much of a selection of panties, or at least ones I’d consider wearing (cut out all the teenager type panties) but I’m so glad to have discovered the Vanity Fair ones. They remind me of a favorite style I used to wear all the time that was a Nordstrom brand, but they don’t carry it anymore. Wow, I’m still thinking about that older lady (probably my age!). If you want to read about a similar panty prank that happened to me, one where “yesterday’s” underwear fell out of my jeans and onto the sidewalk in the Sonoma Plaza, check this one out: http://www.brendakinsel.com/beware-of-panty-pranks/
Those rascals come up with tricks I could never think of!
MaggieAugust 3, 2017 at 5:21 pm
I just love your blog and the fact that you are REAL. My two cents is that I’ve been wearing various versions of Jockey for Women french cut for the past thirty years or so. They meet all requirements–they’re presentable, they’re reasonably priced, and most important, they don’t ride up.
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:02 pm
Excellent criteria, Maggie! I’ve always liked the french cut style as well. Thanks for chiming into this panty discussion!!
CynthiaAugust 3, 2017 at 5:30 pm
Brenda what a great story. It’s funny even the young girls have nice underware. I am in the process of upgrading my underwear to all black bras and panties because they make me full sexy, and why not I’m a fabulous fierce 60!
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:03 pm
You are indeed, Cynthia!! Go for it! xx
GailAugust 3, 2017 at 5:42 pm
First thing I thought of when laying on the gurney after breaking my leg: what kind of underwear did I put on this morning? Second thought: my Mom is going to be so proud of me.
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:03 pm
Oh Gail, I just love this! That message must have been so ingrained in us that we can be in pain but worried more about our underwear! Love you, miss you!
LauraAugust 3, 2017 at 5:43 pm
Love this post and while I am in no danger of my undergarments falling off my hips, I did do an underwear overhaul a couple of years ago. Soma carries a ‘no panty line’ panty with silicone inside the bum line to keep them from riding up. All kinds of colors, prints, lace, no lace. Rarely wear a different brand.
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:04 pm
Interesting! I’ve seen this brand and it was one of those things where I just didn’t have time to look through them all more thoroughly. I’ll have to make a point of it! Thanks, Laura!
JodieAugust 3, 2017 at 5:59 pm
Has anyone ever told you what a great storyteller that you are Brenda?? I could say the exact same thing but it would come out a jumbled mess and wouldn’t have the impact that your story has!!
Yay for new underwear –now if only I could get my mom (the 70+ model on my blog) to listen to me like you listen to your daughter!!
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:05 pm
Oh that’s so funny! What a turnaround, getting your mom to take your advice. Well, you can just keep on trying. So sweet!!!!! Thanks, Jodie!
JoAugust 3, 2017 at 6:03 pm
I am a physician, and I see 30+ women daily in their bra and panties. My medical assistants and I joke that we know what America wears as lingerie and what color toenails are the most popular. We compliment ladies who wear coordinated bra and panties- which is profoundly rare. America wears too large cotton Hanes, Jockey or Victoria Secret granny or french cut panties, or too large Maidenform nylon granny panties. A minority have discovered seamless laser cut microfiber panties, which made thongs obsolete. Bras are dreadfully ill-fitting. Either they are determined to wear a 36B, with rolls spilling everywhere, or they wear huge sizes that offer no support and their breasts remain near their waists. It’s all very sad.
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:07 pm
Jo! An expert here! Telling us like it is. Wow, I didn’t know it was that bad (even though my Laura, my friend Debra’s sister tried to tell me that). Well, I’m very proud to be in the bra and panties I am wearing right now and if in five minutes the paramedics are here and I’m heading to the ER, I won’t feel bad. But I bet I’ll think of you more than once over the next while! Thanks for giving us a report from the trenches.
JoAugust 5, 2017 at 7:34 am
Brenda, I am new to your blog and feel I have found the Holy Grail of fashion for “women of a certain age.” THANK YOU! I am working my way through your archives, and have two questions. Can you tell us how tall you are? You appear quite petite in your photos, but when you stand beside other women, you look taller! You wear some daring things that I, being 5’2″ thought I could never wear, so if you are truly petite, I wonder if it is because you always get the proportions right. The second question is regarding your coloring. You fascinate me with the diversity of colors you wear, and they all look good on you. You appear to have warm coloring, yet you wear blue! and gray! and white! How do you do that? Thank you! I am in a “southern” mid-Atlantic state, so the comments regarding panties may not apply elsewhere.
KathyAugust 4, 2017 at 3:38 am
God Jo , you are so right!!! I’m a nurse (40 years) and I think American women focus on the wrapping paper and not what’s inside the package! In other words, we spend our dollars on clothes not undergarments. I’ll fitting underwear can ruin the look of an outfit. I upgraded my undies recently and focused on muted pinks and purple colors…they make me smile. All of my “distressed” panties went out in the trash! Definitely not a fashion statement.
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:10 pm
Loving hearing from our experts! Thanks, Kathy. I really liked your “wrapping paper” analogy. Every once in a while I’ll be in the dressing room with a client and her clothes are not wrapping paper at all (that’s why she’s come to see me) but her underwear is remarkably beautiful. Go figure. Once I was with a client and saw her bra and asked her when she had a fitting last. She was 70 and said, “Maybe high school.” I got her in the right fitting bra and she said, “Oh my gosh, I wonder how my life would have turned out if I’d been in the right size underwear!”
JudyAugust 4, 2017 at 8:08 am
Love all the stories . . . and your blog! You’re just so darned cute. My personal panty motto is: Life is too short to wear ugly panties. I’m one of those women who really love lingerie. Love the way it makes me feel pretty and feminine, so I probably won’t be going the granny panty route. I have many, many pair of panties of many varieties, but the one constant is that if they’re not comfy, they’re OUT. The other motto I follow religiously is “No panty lines . . . ever!”
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 7:00 pm
Love, love, love your attitude! I had the very prettiest of panties and bras the month after I got divorced. Oh, so lovely! I guess I could still get enthused about choices. May we all live by your ideals as far as comfy-ness goes and not having panty lines!
Sandra SallinAugust 4, 2017 at 2:00 pm
Ha! There must be something in the air. A few months ago I decided my panties were too old and too tight. Had a ball, buying lots of new ones on line. My husband 86 has commented on how cute they all are. Lots of polka dots, stripes etc. I didn’t know about Soma so I’m going to buy some of those also. I also upgraded my bras. There is a wonderful shop in Los Angeles, Jeanette’s Bras. Excellent quality and fit. I now have red, bright pink, light gray. etc bras. Great fun. Gave away my old stuff. Being put to good use in Tijuana.
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 6:58 pm
You’re so ingenious! And even your underwear is sassy and spicy like you! I’m definitely inspired to get more bras that are in pretty colors. Hugs to you, my friend!
LA CONTESSAAugust 4, 2017 at 3:05 pm
How is it WE wear the same size and the same UNDIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe I need to go up a size or two………it is TIME!!!
My Mother always said that too………I have always worn high-waisted underwear.BUT IT CAN STILL BE PRETTY!
The best is in the FRENCH SUPERMARKETS!!!!!!!!!!!BRAS and PANTIES ARE DELICIOUS IN COLOR AND STYLE and AFFORDABLE!
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 6:57 pm
Okay, I’m booking a trip to France to buy undies, that’s it! That’s funny that we’re the same size and the same style! Who knows? We may find even more things that we have in common! XX
JacquelineAugust 4, 2017 at 4:11 pm
I’m surprised no one has mentioned Hanky Pankies. I think they are the most comfortable panties out there. They travel well too, lightweight and wash up in the sink very quickly and dry in a flash. I like the Signature boy shorts, which I switched to after years of wearing the one size thongs. I still like their thongs but UTIs are not fun, so bye-bye. By the way, what do one do with undies that are still in great shape, barely worn but didn’t fit the way one hoped? Throw them away? Can they be donated, and if so where?
BrendaAugust 4, 2017 at 6:55 pm
Hi Jacqueline! Thanks for the tip. Yes, I’m surprised too although I will offer a different view. My daughter Erin always insisted I try Hankie Pankies. I bought a pair in a fabulous color to try them out and they so did not fit my body! They sat at the bottom of the panty drawer forever because looking at them made me happy but wearing them didn’t. As to what to do with barely worn panties, I’m going to ask everyone else! It’s not like you can consign them or anything. That’s a toughy but it would be nice to not be wasteful!
ChristineAugust 5, 2017 at 1:47 pm
IDK how I’m only seeing this post today — love all the comments! I own a Pilates studio, so the ladies eventually discuss *everything.* The day the French gal heard that it’s quite rare for Americans to wear matched sets, she looked at us in horror. She wouldn’t be caught dead in mismatched undies/bra! Then a well-travelled gal explained to her how expensive a good bra & painted is in the states. Apparently, in France, great lingerie can be found at all price points.
TGCHI13August 8, 2017 at 7:47 pm
I want to know (for entirely selfless reasons) if you were shopping for undies that fit why didn’t you just stick with nude?
BrendaAugust 16, 2017 at 7:49 pm
Because I enjoy colors! I like wearing colored underwear especially if they are in colors I love but that don’t look good on me in clothes.
KathyAugust 12, 2017 at 10:37 am
Someone mentioned the brand “Undersummers” in another post. Well, my falling panty story involves a beautiful pair of long panties from them. I’d ordered a beautiful pair of red panties trimmed with lace at the legs and waist. I too have a problem with thigh chafing, especially in the Florida heat. The lace at the top prevented “muffin top” an additional bonus. These pants are in pretty colors and patterns, in case they are seen. I ordered 2 more pair, a practical beige pair with an elastic waist and no lace, and a leopard print with black lace. Well, I was out at an event where I was receiving recognition as a new member of an organization, wearing a blue dress and my red panties. As I walked to the front of the room, I realized that, as I was being introduced in my new profession, my underwear had folded over itself and the top was soon to be exposed lapping the bottom. I squeezed my legs together and hoped for the best. After the proceedings, I minced to the ladies room and took the pants off! When I buy more, I’ll get the elastic top!
BrendaAugust 16, 2017 at 7:43 pm
Why are underwear catastrophes so darn funny? Oh gosh, what a moment to have panty pranks going on! Bless you for getting through it and sharing it with us!
Susanna SingerAugust 22, 2017 at 9:41 am
I finally got to Nordstrom’s yesterday to act on the inspiration in this story, and actually asked for help from a knowledgeable sales assistant. I’ve been wearing Spanx and Yummies almost exclusively lately, and have been so bored with their plain-ness. But you know, control and smoothing wins every time. So imagine my delight when I found out that Spanx have just introduced a new line with LACE!!!!! Just enough control, and so much prettier. Reasonably priced, too. I came home a happy, well-equipped woman, vowing not to leave it so long next time. Oh, and Hanky Panky actually makes larger sizes in their beautiful stretchy lace too – much more expensive, but now on my gift list, just to make my husband’s life easier, you know?!
BrendaAugust 22, 2017 at 11:24 am
You’re such a thoughtful wife! Well, this is an awesome discovery! I will have to check these out. I’ve never used a panty that has control before (not that I don’t need it!). Okay, lacy Spanx is on my “must check it out” list as of right now!
NomiAugust 22, 2017 at 9:54 am
Am I the only one that finds the word “panties” for adult women’s underpants demeaning and infantilizing? It puts me in mind of those ruffled-butt things they sell for toddler girls who aren’t quite out of diapers. OK, getting off the soapbox now.
BrendaAugust 22, 2017 at 11:22 am
Nomi, I am glad you spoke your piece! Just for the sheer joy of remembering those ruffled panty things toddlers wore, probably more in my time than current time. So your word would be underpants? I love people who love words. Thanks for sharing your point of view on this! It’s funny, I almost have the reverse response. Underpants sounds like, “Come on Sally, you need to get into your underpants if you want to go play in the sand box with Johnny.” By contrast, “Mom, your underwear is disgusting!” so saith the daughter in her thirties. But in that case she just called them underwear. And I call them that more than anything but that can include bras. So I guess when I isolate them, it’s panties and bras. I could talk words with you all day!
Lucy GibsonAugust 23, 2017 at 3:54 pm
I had to laugh out loud when you talked about how your underwear would have a mind of their own and say “let’s go exploring”. I also tend to be on my feet a lot of the day and notice that this happens to me. My husband was just talking about how I need to find some better undergarments that will help me feel more at ease. I suppose it’s time for me to start looking around for something that’s fun and comfortable.
BrendaAugust 24, 2017 at 7:54 pm
I think when the husband mentions it, it is definitely time! You will feel so much better. I say go for it, Lucy.
Karen H.August 23, 2017 at 6:36 pm
OMG Brenda, you are too funny! This is a great topic especially for us ladies of a certain age. Love all the comments and recommendations. I need to “undie” shop. Loved reading Connie’s horror story, and I was ROFL!!!
BrendaAugust 24, 2017 at 7:52 pm
Yes, indeed, it’s fun to laugh together, right?
Sam WilkinsAugust 24, 2017 at 4:04 pm
I like how you mentioned that having the wrong fit of panties can cause some interesting situations. My mother has been wearing a size too big for her and has been experiencing chafing on her upper thigh. She should look into getting a different size of panties to see if they help with that problem.
BrendaAugust 24, 2017 at 7:39 pm
Indeed! I hope she does. She’ll feel so much better!