
Lipstick update
When my buddy, Cindy Hattersley (Rough Luxe Lifestyle) asked me if I’d like to join her and some buddies and write about our favorite beauty products, I said, “Me?” I know what my strengths are and I wouldn’t put beauty on the list.
I’m totally confident when it comes to putting an outfit together, but when it comes to beauty products, I feel like I missed the DNA for it. But how could that be?
My mother was a makeup aficionado. She had the most beautiful skin. Everyone told her so. She took care of it, and she never left the house without makeup on.
I don’t remember ever watching her apply makeup, although I did see her put lipstick on with no mirror. She knew her lip line by heart and never strayed out of the lines.
Makeup wouldn’t be something my daughters would learn from me. My youngest, Caitlin, is masterful at it all on her own. As a hip hop dancer in her teens, she was dressing her face up to create the mood of the characters she was embodying in her dances. She’s like Mom…in many ways.
It was a shock to me the day Erin and I were in Nordstrom together and she said, “Mom, can you help me buy a lipstick?” She’s my eldest daughter. She was 32 at the time. I felt so honored to help her pick out her first lipstick shade.
I’m actually confident picking out makeup colors for clients. It’s not that different from helping them choose clothing colors that flatter them most.
But to be asked by my own daughter? My heart felt double the size.
And now hanging out at beauty counters is one of our fun, relaxing things to do together. It’s almost like our gin and tonic after working all day with a client. If we’ve been in stores, she’ll say. “Let’s just go check out the lipsticks.”
An hour and a half later we’ve tried foundations, blushes, skin care, brow pencils, you name it. While I would have been cranky facing the traffic heading back to my home in Sonoma, since shopping with her in a easy, breezy way, I’m now feeling light as a feather, singing my way to the car, swinging my bag of new goodies.

Our new favorite foundation
Recently we were at the Dior counter for something she wanted me to see. The two of us ended up buying our new favorite thing: Dior’s AirFlash.
You spray a bit on that fluffy brush and then brush it on your face. It’s a perfect foundation for both of us because we can keep it looking really light. That brush feels so sensual. I feel like I’m being really nice to my face.
It makes me think of Mother, actually. She’s probably looking down from heaven saying, “Good girl, Babe.”

Finding a lipstick to blend with my eye frames
In our last after-work visit to Sephora, we ended up with trying on and buying the same lipstick color. It’s Sedition 142 by Pat McGrath Labs. What I love about it is that it’s great with my red/coral eye frames.
I knew this one was a winner. My girl was there to help me. Mother-daughter time, relaxing, and enjoying the little things together-well, that’s living the good life, isn’t it?

Blog buddies share beauty products
I want to share these links with you so you can enjoy tips and favorites from my buddies in beauty.
32 Comments
Bobbi A Mouzon
August 13, 2018 at 10:04 amMy Samantha worked as a make-up artist for a while, and still loves make up more than I can imagine! She collects it like I collect costume jewelry. We go on a cruise about once a year, and the happiest time every day is sitting together in the cabin, doing our hair and make up and laughing like mad women. It’s the best.
Brenda
August 14, 2018 at 5:14 pmOh Bobbi, that sounds like so much fun! I just spent the last couple of days laughing like a mad woman with my high school friend from Minnesota. She came down to visit me while I’m visiting Dad. Gosh, those laughs are so invigorating! Thanks for sharing!
Becky
August 13, 2018 at 5:49 pmI love lipstick too! I think that since I’m dark haired with fair skin, just a change in lipstick color can be very dramatic on me. So I have lots!! Oh- and Vitamin C serum! Every day!
Brenda
August 14, 2018 at 5:13 pmAnd the Vitamin C serum is going where, Becky? Really, I am a novice!
jodie filogomo
August 14, 2018 at 5:38 amI have enjoyed trying out new products now that I have more time. It’s fun to see what really works for my skin and environment!!
My story is kinda like yours—my mom (the 80+ model on my blog) always cares about her makeup and doesn’t leave the house without it. I grew up the same way yet, now I’m venturing out occasionally without.
XOXO
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
Brenda
August 14, 2018 at 5:12 pmJodie, I’m smiling. I was getting out of the car this afternoon to get Dad some pizza. I’m visiting him in Perham, MN. I had to reapply lipstick before going into the pizza place. I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to break that habit! Mom is looking over my shoulder!
Denise
August 18, 2018 at 11:47 pmIs AirFlash messy, Brenda?
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:15 pmNot at all, Denise!
jodie filogomo
August 25, 2018 at 1:33 pmI don’t consider that a bad thing….lipstick makes everything better!!
🙂
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 5:51 pmOh isn’t that the truth!
Sandi
August 14, 2018 at 6:01 amRemember when I texted you from Portugal last winter wanting your makeup purchasing tips? You said you didn’t have any suggestions for face makeup. Damn! Your Dior makeup looks amazing.
Brenda
August 14, 2018 at 5:11 pmSee what a difference a few months makes? YES, now I do have a suggestion! Next visit I need to see your makeup/beauty stash and learn more from you. You’re an expert!
Betty (SC)
August 14, 2018 at 6:47 amBeautiful story …. beautiful lipstick!
Brenda
August 14, 2018 at 5:10 pmThanks, Betty!
Jen
August 14, 2018 at 1:36 pmI am a beauty product Junkie. I love the Dior BB Creme – but will have to try Airflash. Also love the concealer from Make Up Forever – The Full Cover. And here’s a tip: As I’ve gotten older, eye shadow would not stay put – just end up in the crease. Someone told me about Urban Decay’s Eye Shadow Primer Potion. It’s a game changer. Rub that into your eyelid – let it dry. Cream or powder eyeshadows DO NOT BUDGE.
Brenda
August 14, 2018 at 5:10 pmShadow has been a problem for me…keeping them on! I will definitely try the Urban Decay’s primer. Thanks so much, Jen!
Kim
August 15, 2018 at 4:02 amI’m a makeup incompetent! I don’t wear a lot of it, though I always have some type of lip gloss or lipstick on. My daughter does a beautiful job of applying makeup!
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:23 pmOne of my daughters, Caitlin, is exceptional at application. Maybe I need to do a trade. She can help me with makeup and I’ll help her put outfits together. She’s been requesting that lately.
Cindylou
August 15, 2018 at 8:22 amI love this post. I tried the other links but there was nothing on their favorite beauty products.
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:22 pmThat may have been a problem on my site. I hope you try again!
cindy hattersley
August 16, 2018 at 7:25 amI know you are the Lipstick Queen so I couldn’t wait to hear your suggestions! How is it for creeping into the fine lines around the mouth? Wait! You don’t have any! Thanks so much for joining us pal. I knew you would have great insight as always!
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:22 pmCindy!!! I’m the queen of lines around my lips! So far, so good. I do have MAC lip prep around just in case. Thanks for inviting me!
classic casual home
August 16, 2018 at 8:10 amHow FUN to go makeup shopping with your daughter. My daughter is the one that actually introduced me to Benefit eyebrow pencil and mascara and they are my favorites. I would love to try the “sensuous” brush and light foundation. You always look so beautiful! And I think some of that is shining from the inside out. Thanks for doing this with us!
Mary Ann
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:21 pmThanks for inviting me! I still can’t believe you have a daughter any older than twelve. But yes, isn’t it fun when they lead the way? Best to you!
LA CONTESSA
August 16, 2018 at 1:16 pmI saw the AD for DIOR and was STOPPED in mY TRACKS……..GOOD TO KNOW!
32 and her first lipstick???That was a FUN FACT!
Another fun FACT is you are standing in front of my high school boyfriends old apartment………………I believe they are condos now!!!
GREAT POST!
XX
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:20 pmOh my gosh! Really? That’s right near where Erin lives. What an eye you have!
Trinnie Q
August 16, 2018 at 11:30 pmWell , how adorable! I was very slow to wear make up, and still feel quite clueless,Though I have worn lipstick since early 30 ,s . I find the powders make my creases sick out more, so tend to just use B.B.,or C.C. creams. I have found.makeup counters in big stores a bit daunting, but recently have discovered what a great source of information those people are. I like some of the long lasting revlon lipsticks, but love Mac, as a special treat. My little accomplice at the local chemist shop in the lipstick section, is my 9 year old boy Dominic! So cute. Sending love from Oz
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:19 pmDominic! What a great guy to have at your side. I bet he has great opinions! Yes, I think I used to think that makeup people at counters wouldn’t want to help a tomboy like me but it turns out I’ve learned a lot and had a lot of fun there. I’m glad I got over myself.
Design Chic
August 17, 2018 at 5:12 amA mother/daughter makeup shopping sounds like such a fun idea! We need to do the same. Happy weekend, Brenda!
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 6:17 pmIt sure is a fun thing we do together. I highly recommend them!
Anne Sowden
August 22, 2018 at 2:10 pmAny tips for disposing of expired and/or used makeup? I hate the thought of it going to landfill but haven’t found any other options.
Brenda
August 27, 2018 at 5:59 pmI think it’s a bit tough when it comes to used makeup. I’m not sure if charities that help women get back on their feet accept things like that? Good question. Does anyone out there have an answer?