I heard someone say, “I’m just going to wear my sweats” and I thought, really? Maybe it got my attention because I don’t own sweats. But it was more about what “I’m just going to wear sweats” implied. Her tone was “I don’t really care. I’m just going to wear sweats.”
Shortly after hearing that statement someone else told me how sweats have gotten a lot cuter. Sweats are a choice, one that I’ll look into for myself.
That’s because I’m all for fashion freedom. Put it on my gravestone: She championed fashion freedom.
But let’s be sure there’s freedom for all. At the same time as one can choose to dress down, one can also choose to dress up a tad, even in these casual times. Erin and I were making outfits for a client out of pieces she already had. She’s around 70 or maybe 75. She said, “You know what? I think I’m just going to start dressing up more. I like it how it feels.”
The joy of getting dressed
I find the feeling of clothes on my body and the way they make me move to be intoxicating. Since I’m not much of a drinker, I’m happy to enjoy that flush of joy that comes over me when I’m enjoying the texture of a jacket, the movement of an earring, the print of a blouse.
I’m all for daily fashion intoxication. If things go badly at any given hour, when I’ve dressed with intention, I feel like I can handle whatever comes my way.
Office Tuesday dressing
I spend a lot of time on my computer on Office Tuesdays. One Tuesday I woke up with the urge to wear a seasoned Armani textured jacket. I chose a white shirt, my DL 1961 frayed-edge jeans, and my Steve Madden sneakers and added jewelry. I felt supported, comfortable, and entertained by my outfit all day. Did I leave the house? No. It was just one of those what-I-wear-when-n0-one-is-looking outfits.
Dressing for the special occasion that is life
On a recent Saturday, I attended a baby shower. I woke up in the morning wanting to wear a dress and black fishnets. Yes, to a baby shower. Maybe in the past, I’d have pulled back on that idea—thinking about what others would be wearing—and tone it down. But you know what? I’m over sixty and I can dress the way I want!
Being in this decade is a lot like being three-years-old putting together an outfit out of leotards and tutus, and pink sneakers, and a purple velvet hat because you want to. No one says you can’t cuz you’re young and cute and not hurting anyone.
The same is true now. We’re dressing more for ourselves than others, and we’re not hurting anyone with our sartorial choices. These are the freedom years!
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Wearing a silk skirt with pailettes to work
I have this silk skirt that’s got pailettes all around it. It’s tricky because there’s no stretch in it. I have to be a certain weight or shape to wear it without worrying that I’m going to strain the seams.
So I saw it there in my closet on a Wednesday and thought, “Let’s seize the day, pailettes!”
I’ve had this skirt for years and years. When I purchased it, fashion wasn’t as casual as it is today. I would wear a pretty skirt three days a week and not think anything of it.
I could wonder what people think who see me hanging out in a coffee shop in Sausalito wearing this skirt. I could, but I won’t. I’m wearing this to please myself, to enjoy the design and shine of this skirt, right now. It puts a smile on my face. I love the sound of it when I walk. If everyone else in the coffee shop is in sweats, or jeans and a T-shirt, that’s okay. I’ve made my choice.
Fashion freedom is dressing for the occasion of your life in any way you choose.
Do you feel more freedom at this age to wear what you want? I’d love to hear your observations about how you felt about dressing then (choose a decade), and how you feel about it now. Can’t wait to hear from you!