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How a ring and bracelet jewelry combo unlocks desire


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Reflecting on the stirrings of my inner life


As owners of our style expression, we have rights. We have the right to change up our look or bring out something new about our personality. We do this through fashion, style, clothes, and jewelry.

When Artful Home invited me to choose two pieces of jewelry to wear and write about, I challenged myself. What if I chose pieces that called to me for reasons I wasn’t clear about yet? Would I be making a mistake?

You know how passionate I am about women being visible, but I need to clarify one thing: It’s not just about being visible to people around us; it’s about honoring the stirrings of our inner life. Can jewelry help us hear our desire? Oh yes, I believe so.


Bangle and ring from Artful Home

Crescent Ball Bangle and Bumpy Belted Ring from Artful Home



How a ring and a bracelet can express desire

I’ve been noticing something about myself. It could be seasonal or it could be more than that. Where I’ve enjoyed the hustle and bustle (noise) of life, I’m craving quiet reflection.

Let me use jewelry to the change. I loved wearing multiple bracelets this summer, like a minimum of five at a time. The sound they made as they clanked into each other reminded me, “I’m here. I’m showing up!”

Besides a wrist or two full of bracelets, I wore double necklaces a lot. I enjoyed the bouncy action against my chest. ‘I am woman!’ they seemed to announce. I’m an older woman and I’m not dead yet. I deserve to be seen. See me, hear me, don’t overlook me, says my jewelry.


Every fashion and style choice is the right one for that moment. 

But what happens when there’s a shift? Does that mean we make a shift in our fashion as well?


Something shifted this fall. I’m in the mood to listen far more than I speak. I’m in student mode rather than teaching mode. I want to spend time alone in order to read, study, and learn. I want to think and reflect.

Could my jewelry align with those stirrings? Yes!

I used that inner desire to inform my Artful Home jewelry selection.


Using jewelry to connect to desire

I like the bold shape of this Dahlia Kanner Bumpy Belted Ring.


Dahlia Kanner's Bumpy Belted Ring

Dahlia Kanner designed this saddle-shaped ring


I wear bold rings, but none as simply designed as this one. My rings are generally more complicated. The quiet row of silver beads that goes all around the saddle-shaped ring hearkens me back to a beauty marker from my childhood. In North Dakota farmers plant shelter belts. A shelter belt is a single, long row of trees that breaks the wind that howls across the prairies. Those trees help keep the soil from eroding. Every farm has them. Those rows are so beautiful and soothing to me. This ring, with its row of beads, reminds me of those lines of trees. (Read Can clothing choices be influenced by childhood for my theory on why we love what we love.)

Can you see that same connection with the Crescent Ball Bangle silver bracelet created by Nikki Nation?



Artful Home jewelry pieces suggest serenity


It has even smaller beads than the ring has, but it shares the patina of the ring. It’s delicate, which is outside my comfort zone. Have you ever seen me wear a delicate bracelet? I don’t think so! I wondered if something so light and thin would be satisfying to me after a long history of wearing heavier, bolder bracelets or multiple bangles like I wore this summer. Slipping it over my wrist the first time gave me the answer: I felt like I’d come home. It was simple, steadfast, and quietly powerful.


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This billowy kimono enjoys the company of Artful Home jewelry pieces


The world we live in is so busy, demanding, and filled with pockets of strife and unrest. If we let it, it clatters and clanks and makes it hard to hear ourselves think. When I look at these pieces while wearing them, I’m reminded to find that quiet, soft spot in me and listen. It’s a place of nourishment and rest. I need the reassuring message these pieces bring.


Outfit details with the silver ring and silver bracelet from Artful Home


Navy blue column of color

Early fall in Sonoma


I wear this ring and thin bracelet with everything right now. I think the repetition of the message they convey is good medicine. They’ve inspired outfits that feel easy and effortless. I wore the jewelry pieces with a column of navy and slipped my summer kimono over it.

I wear the jewelry with this silk Equipment shirt. No necklaces; just earrings, the Bumpy Belted Ring and the Crescent Ball Bangle.


Hand designed ring and bracelet from Artful Home

Enjoying the simplicity of a blouse and serene jewelry


Here I added a navy duster for an extra layer. Simple dressing.


Jean outfit

Adding an older crinkle duster to this easy jean outfit


This weekend I wore more head-to-toe navy: jeans, a navy cotton shirt and a denim jacket. This time I added one more slim bangle to my wrist.


double denim

Double denim outfit



Jewelry pieces help define changing moods

Wearing jewelry pieces that help me hear my desires


As always, I appreciate the opportunity to share my thoughts on pieces from Artful Home. They are so generous with me. As a company, they are supportive of women. You’ve got to love that!


Using jewelry to listen to one's inner self

Enjoying a weekend full of quiet time


My final thoughts: As you contemplate new purchases, ask yourself if the pieces you’re looking at are helping you express what you want in this chapter in your life. Are they helping you hear yourself? You could be looking at a piece of jewelry or clothing and saying, ‘Wow, I’ve never thought of wearing that before.’  Follow the stirrings of your heart.

Clothes and accessories give us the opportunity to express our unique selves over and over again, one chapter after the other. Isn’t it exciting?

What has your inner self been telling you lately? I’d love to hear!


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  • Reply
    October 9, 2018 at 1:30 am

    I love the shirt with the date stamps! I like how accessories can hint at the possibility of another “me”, without necessarily having to change the major messages of an outfit: like an unexpected minor chord in a piece of music.

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    jodie filogomo
    October 9, 2018 at 5:38 am

    I can’t tell you how much I loved hearing you say this, Brenda!!
    I was just thinking that when I was younger, I worked so hard to blend in with everyone else. I wanted what everyone else was wearing. Yet now, I feel differently. I don’t mind standing out and being noticed. Being unique. It’s such a great part of our life, and i think every part of our outfit can play a role!

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      October 9, 2018 at 11:30 am

      Everything Jodie said… in spades. You are a joy to follow, Brenda ❤

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    LT Holmes
    October 9, 2018 at 7:07 am

    What a wonderfully inspiring reflection! The quiet tone of the writing matches the quiet mood. I love when you explain the deep power that can resonate from artifacts. I’ve been wearing my personal totem jewelry a lot lately–I find it so calming. Something must be up with the Autumn atmosphere!

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    October 9, 2018 at 7:09 am

    It’s nice to read about other women who enjoy clothing as much as I do. Always have. I feel like my best self when I’m dressed nicely. Now that I’m 60, I enjoy adding brighter colors or whimsy to an outfit. Still pretty conservative as a whole, but that bright spot speaks to me. Thanks for all of your tips and contemplations.

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    Katie Ross
    October 9, 2018 at 8:44 am

    One thing that I struggle with is feeling like I have to wear my wedding and engagement rings every day, without being able to use that “real estate” even for other rings that my husband has given me before we were married. How does everyone else deal with that?

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      October 9, 2018 at 9:16 am

      Katie, I totally understand! I keep my wedding ring real estate to itself and my other hand for the other stuff.

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      October 10, 2018 at 8:26 am

      Hi Katie. I have a yellow emerald and diamond, a multi sapphire, and an opal that I switch out for the diamond ring depending on mood. These are special rings that we bought on special trips so they still have deep meaning with the wedding band. Also I will wear a pinkie ring on that hand as well as a ring on the index finger depending on mood as well. Usually the index ring is a tanzanite and diamond so it blends in, or sometimes just a whimsical ring for fun. Too many rings too little fingers. They make me happy so why not.

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    sophia montgomery
    October 9, 2018 at 9:18 am

    Stepping out of a comfort zone need not be a shout but a whisper. Thank you, Brenda.

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    Cindy Scurry
    October 9, 2018 at 9:50 am

    I love how you write and express yourself! Well….I basically just love you! 🙂
    I’m trying to make more of a statement in what I’m wearing – being more creative with what I have and purchasing only items that are speaking to me on some level (work or fun). I love how simple things make such a statement – whether that be at home, in fashion or in person.

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    October 9, 2018 at 10:21 am

    A wonderful post Brenda, as always! I love the navy crinkle duster. Hopefully I will find one like it!!

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    October 9, 2018 at 2:09 pm

    This is such a beautiful post, Brenda and one that speaks to me at a time of trying to deal with the incessant noise and stress of everyday life. I love how you relate the impact a choice of jewelry can make on one’s psyche. Since childhood, I have had such a love of jewelry in terms of the feelings it can evoke. I always choose my jewelry to manifest a mood more than any other fashion item. By the way, on a lighter note, I love the color lipstick you are wearing – what color is it, thanks!!

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    October 9, 2018 at 6:07 pm

    Hi, Brenda!
    Your point of view, and your outfits to go with it, are quietly poetic in this post. I see so many things that wow me now that I’m blogging. Those are the things I’ve been choosing. They are the things that express the true self I didn’t feel I could show in a professional environment. I now believe I shouldn’t have been deterred by the opinions of others back then. I’m getting bolder as I get older, and enjoying a whole community of women who feel the same.
    Thanks for this thoughtful post,
    Angie, http://www.yourtrueselfblog.com

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    Trinnie Q
    October 10, 2018 at 12:41 am

    Oh, all of you darlings ! especially the , as previously stated, ‘quietly poetic ‘ tone of your writing in this blog Brenda, so much richness here. Recently I purchased a summer jacket in a subdued waffle brown tone, with layers of ruffles around the neck and front openings. it was such a different type of garment, but I was so drawn to it. It reminded me of 1920sfashion. I am not sure what that is saying to me, or about me at this time. , but I am glad I listened to the quieter voice inside of me. As always, sending much love from Oz.

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    October 13, 2018 at 11:42 am

    This is a longing for simplicity and groundedness, isn’t it?

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    Bettye L Rainwater
    October 15, 2018 at 3:17 pm

    What a lovely, thoughtful post, Brenda.

    I’m just contemplating getting some new jewelry – I never have very much as I have always preferred jewelry given vs bought. And I’m in a “jewelry gift drought” these days, ha ha, so it’s up to me! Anyway, I also prefer wearing jewelry that speaks to me emotionally in some way (hence the gifted preference), but now that I’m on my own, I need to find jewelry that resonates in another way. Your words sparked some ideas in me…so thank you.


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    October 15, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    Thanks for this post, Brenda. As a studio jeweler, I really appreciate the way Artful Home promotes its artists and allows them to reach a wider audience.

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