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Shaper to the rescue of this jersey cold shoulder top

Navy blue column of color in this Chico's outfit on Brenda Kinsel website

Enjoying the sleekness of this outfit from Chico’s


I bought an outfit this season at Chico’s that I just love! My daughter Erin happened to be at the house that day so when I came home from shopping I decided to take a turn at “fashion show.” Fashion show is when daughters try on their new purchases in front of their mother and ask for her feedback. Even though my girls are grown, they’ll still bring clothes to my house to do fashion show. I decided to take a turn at fashion show and ask them for feedback!

When I tried this outfit on at home in the sunroom and showed it to Erin she said, “Oh! Looks great!”

It’s a jersey fabric, slinky, a relaxed pant and a matching 3/4 sleeved cold shoulder blouson top.

It feels so darn good on. I feel all womanly in it. Additionally I was congratulating myself on finding a cold shoulder top that I could wear that didn’t feel so trendy. It wasn’t exaggerated or too showy. I still felt like me. A slinky, sort of sexy me.


Patting myself on my own cold shoulder

I was pretty inflated with my own genius about finding an outfit that worked so well on my figure and wasn’t like anything else I had in my closet.

And then Erin broke my reverie. She said, “What’s that above your waist?”

“What?” I said looking down.

“It looks like there’s something under the top,” she insisted.

We examined it further and guess what it was! My skin texture for goodness sake, on top of a layer of fat that the jersey was clinging to.


Wearing a cold shoulder top on Brenda Kinsel website

Wearing my cold shoulder top and feeling chic

Clingy fashion culprits

You know how some fabrics just love to cling to cellulite or uneven skin textures?

This was one of those! Everything that had been inflated was now deflated except of course for my upper belly fat which hadn’t gone anywhere.

“But I love this!” I said. I was actually whining.

“Well, why don’t you just wear a shaper under it?” Erin said.


Surrendering to shapers

I had one in my closet. I went and put it on. It didn’t work. It had lace detail and the lace made the fabric bumpy.

Shopping for shapers wasn’t something I felt like doing or had time to do. I wanted to wear this outfit the next day! (Imagine hearing stamping of feet in the sunroom.)

Finally the opportunity arrived. I was at Macy’s on a Saturday all by myself and had time to investigate options.

I pulled about five shapers off the racks and brought them to the sales associate.

“Do you have experience with any of these?” I said.

She wanted to know what my primary area was that I wanted shaped.

“It’s here,” I said and patted my upper belly, the belly that’s north of my waistline versus the one that’s south of my waistline.

She steered me to one that was cut deep in front so I could wear it over my own smooth bra (no lace issues). And it was slinky so outer fabrics would slide right over it.

This Maidenform shaper was just what I needed. Sold!


Using a shaper to smooth out the mid-section on Brenda Kinsel website

What was once bumpy is now smooth!

The results

I wore my outfit to work the next week. As Erin and I were walking to our client’s front door I said, “Notice anything?”

“What?” she said.

“Here,” I said and pointed to the region that had been puckery. “See anything?”

“No,” she said.

“Exactly! I got a shaper,” I said.

“Good for you Mom!” Yes, good for me. Now I had the look I wanted and felt exquisite and confident all day. It’s amazing how clothes can make you feel!


A scarf option to add interest

I brought a scarf with me to add a little drama to my column of navy blue if I felt like it. It didn’t interfere with the cold shoulder. I liked how lean it was, just like my outfit. I felt long and lean.


Adding a scarf to my outfit for added interest on Brenda Kinsel website

Adding a scarf for added interest


Scarf closeup on Brenda Kinsel website

Adding a silk scarf to my slinky outfit


I rarely wear shapers but wow, I have a new respect for them. I’m proud to have a couple of them in my wardrobe!

Do you have shapers you favor? Gosh, I’d love to get your tips!



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  • Reply
    August 11, 2016 at 7:39 am

    You look beautiful, Brenda!
    Yes, sleek, long and lean. I wish I could wear navy but alas, too cool and dark for my coloring. In my estimation, you purchased the right combination for a relaxed, mature figure, featuring a great summer combination. The loose pant and blouson top should have taken care of the “jiggly bits” in the initial design. The current cost cutting fabrications make it very difficult for women to purchase ensembles and be totally happy with them. Its hard enough finding appropriate styles, now it’s one more thing to critique in the dressing room. Whew! Your life’s passion and career helping women is not an easy path.

    Shape wear could be several postings about fit and comfort. My personal favorite is TC, purchased from Nordstrom. If purchased too small, more problems present themselves.

    We are leaving soon for a month in Spain. Think I’ll head out to find a lovely, feminine top, like yours, that doesn’t require special underpinnings. Thank you so much for sharing and saving others from your experience.

    a faithful fan,
    By the way, your tip about adding a bra extension is brilliant and works!! Our last lengthy trip was sooo comfortable and this flight will be too. You are the best!

    • Reply
      August 12, 2016 at 9:11 am

      I’m glad that bra extender tip for long flights still lives! And I’m pondering the words “relaxed, mature woman” which is great!!
      Hugs from Brenda and have a great trip!!

  • Reply
    Marcia Miller
    August 11, 2016 at 8:21 am

    I like a long legged shaper under some ponte skinny pants to eliminate visible panty lines and that same cellulite cling. Mine goes from waist to ankle. It also adds a layer of warmth when I travel to cool locales. I can use it under jeans and even long skirts.

    • Reply
      August 12, 2016 at 9:09 am

      I love the idea of layering like you suggested for cold weather. Thanks for that!

  • Reply
    Marcy Lytle
    August 19, 2016 at 4:08 pm

    I love a shaper called Diet Trim from Sears. I wear them ALL the time. No bra lines. They lift and feel great !

    • Reply
      August 19, 2016 at 4:16 pm

      Thanks for the tip! It’s fun to get new resources from all kinds of places. Feeling great is the best part, right? Thanks!

  • Reply
    August 21, 2016 at 2:30 pm

    I love this Simply Perfect came by Warner from Target. it’s available in store in different colors including white and gray. And I buy it TWO sizes too small (I wear a 16-18 but get the M) for real control and ONE size too small for simple smoothing (I wear a 16-18 but get the L). It is very hard to put on the first time, but a piece of cake after that.

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