I think the biggest block standing in the way of women over 60 and them feeling vibrant is being set in their ways. Standing still, stationary, stuck in one place and not moving in any direction. By the way, feel free to insert any age in place of 60. It can happen at any age. Purging your wardrobe can help you get unstuck.
I was so proud of a client of mine that I saw last week. I’ve had her as a client for twenty-nine years. On the fashion risk taking scale (as talked about in the post How to face fashion that’s outside your comfort zone) she’d be around 1.5. Remember, 10 is the ultimate risk taker.
She plays it safe. She finds a pant she likes and buys multiples. There’s a fear that there will never be another solution like that pant so she’ll stock up. Sound familiar? It’s fairly common!
Her look doesn’t change much from one year to the next. She has several pieces in her wardrobe that have been there a long time and I approve. They still work for her. But last week she confessed, “I really think my work outfits are out of date.” She wouldn’t get a fashion citation wearing what she was wearing, but it just wasn’t satisfying anymore. She wanted a change.
It takes feeling uncomfortable before we’re ready to purge our wardrobes
I was really happy for her. There’s nothing worse than feeling stuck in a rut. There’s no juice there. There’s no energy moving. It’s stagnant.
My eyes lit up and I think my words came faster. I knew what would be her next step. We’d focus on changing her look from the waist up. Longer knit cardigan sweaters worked well with contrasting inside pieces and long pendants or scarves. (This was new.) She looked great and felt happier. We have a few things to shop for to get it all in place but the blueprint exists.
Where did this movement to try something new start from? A desire to weed things out of her closet that didn’t work. She was really sick of it all. By culling out the things that no longer had good energy for her, she was set free to move forward. She was ready to leave her 1.5 comfort zone and wear clothes in a new 4.0 way. From 1.5 – 4.0 is a huge leap! I was so proud of her.
Feeling good about your wardrobe is well within your reach
I’ve gotten lots calls recently for help to purge wardrobes. People are tired of the weight that’s in their closets. It’s the weight of clothes that don’t fit, that don’t suit their current lives, that belonged to a different era. It’s no wonder people who have purged their closet(s) will say, “I feel so much lighter!” All the parts that weren’t working are gone and what’s left are clothes that have energy.
It’s like cleaning out a spice cabinet. Or cleaning out the glove compartment in your car. Only when you do this with your clothes, the relief is far greater. It can be transforming, liberating.
Some purging tips
If you’re taking time this weekend to do some purging, imagine I’m over in the corner cheering you on. The results will be so great!
I suggest you tackle one small area. It can be white blouses, or black pants, or colored sweaters. Break the task into bits.
Special occasion dresses.
Just one segment of a group at a time.
Use a portable rolling rack if you have one and pull clothes out of your closet and onto the rack. Tackle only what’s on the rack.
When we’re with our clients and they’re trying on items,they may know immediately, just by the feel of the garment, whether they want to keep it or not. Sometimes we ask clarifying questions. You can ask them yourself, questions like:
- Do I feel better or worse for having this garment on?
- Would I wear this this week?
- Does this garment make me feel bored or boring?
- Does this feel like me right now in 2018?
- Does this color make me happy to wear?
Prepare action steps for items purged
Have some large trash bags or shopping bags ready and separate the discards as you go.
You’ll have a Toss pile (worn out, stained, wouldn’t be helpful to someone else).
You’ll have a Donate pile. Do you have a favorite charity or would a simple drop off at Goodwill work for you?
You’ll have an Alterations pile. Some items will be refreshed by changing the hem, shortening the sleeves or taking it in.
You may have a Consignment pile, items you’ll take to your local consignment store and get money back when they sell.
Don’t overdo it
It may make sense to just force yourself to work all day on a project like this.
I worry that if you overextend you’ll end up feeling like you never want to go near your closet again. Don’t do that. At least take breaks. In other words, be kind to yourself, okay? Kindness goes a long way. If you start criticizing yourself for letting it get this far or buying things unnecessarily, or not wearing half of what’s in your closet, lighten up. WE HAVE ALL DONE IT.
You’re getting in there and moving energy around and it’s all good.
Tell me how you do with purging. Have you gotten stuck? Share with us and maybe we can help. Have you recently purged and you’re feeling the grooviness of it all? Let us hear from you!