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What do you love about your body?

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I have spent the last couple of weeks stopping people and with pen and notebook in hand asking them to tell me what they love about their body.

I have met several stunned faces.

Here are comments that came with those stunned faces.

Can I get back to you next year?

Oh, this is hard.

Yikes. I don’t know. My hair?

Brenda, why do you always ask me these hard questions? (Followed by a chuckle.)

I’m so hard on myself. I don’t spend time thinking about what I love about my body. Does it have to be love?

One person was so enlivened after answering this question for me that she brought it to the dinner party she was having that night and asked everyone there what they loved about their bodies. She told me, “It was illuminating!”

Why is it hard to express love for our bodies and ourselves?

Something inspired me one day about love, about self-love. Are smart, intelligent, fabulous women still finding it hard to appreciate themselves? You see, the wonderful thing about being me is that I’ve worked with all sizes, shapes, and ages of women. They are all beautiful!

I was hoping to discover that these beautiful, loving, caring, women felt the same way about themselves. Apparently, there’s still struggle in this area.

When I went around asking people what they loved about their bodies, I gave them no instruction. In my mind it could mean a quality they love about themselves, a part of their body that they love or something their body can do that makes them feel good.

Of course, I want to hear your answers but I also want to challenge you to ask this question of others. I think we could start a revolution by asking this question out loud and talking to each other. I believe that self-love could only grow and grow if we just talked about it.

 

Loving my smile

I love my lips and my smile

Having love for my hair on BrendaKinsel.com

I love my hair, cowlicks and all

Asking this question in small groups

In most cases there were clusters of people that I asked at the same time. One group consisted of three friends of mine having coffee together. One group of three was in a hair salon when I was getting my hair cut. One group was at Uber Optics. And in a few cases I was asking one person at a time.

The thing about asking this question in a group (I highly recommend doing it this way) is that when there’s more than one voice, it can encourage individuals to start sharing and keep sharing. In only one case did someone answer positively and immediately with great enthusiasm. Most people stuttered and stammered before gaining momentum and spreading their net of self-love a tiny bit wider. When you’re asking others, you want to just listen to them. Don’t say things like, “But I love your knees!” Or, “But what about your chest? Don’t you love that?” You’d be amazed at people’s answers so don’t answer for them, okay?

In one case I got things going when I showed them my two index fingers side-by-side. I said, “I love how crooked my two fingers are on my right hand. It’s the hand I use for writing and I like that the index finger heads toward my middle finger instead of standing straight up. I don’t at all mind that the knuckle on my middle finger is much wider on the right hand than the left hand. Writing has brought me great joy and wonderful experiences and I love that those two fingers, the fingers that hold my blue Pilot G-2 07 pen, look a bit worn. Bravo fingers!”

Loving imperfections on BrendaKinsel.com

I love my crooked fingers

Ready to hear some answers? Here we go!

Some people expressed love for the things their bodies do for them

I do like my eyes because of what I see, the gifts they give me. I like the color and the shape of them. It’s so connected to me—the metaphor of sight and insight. When I almost lost my sight it was awful. I tell them I love them. I appreciate them so much.

I love what aging does to the mind.

I love my heart. Working with patients in the hospital as I have for thirty-five years, my heart sees beauty in most. I do feel that I have a capacity to find value and beauty in most human beings. I value that about myself.

I like my laugh.

There’s pride in doing the best I can. In general, I think it’s important to have pride.

I do a lot of things for my inner self like therapy, Buddhist practice, being fully engaged in relationships, having compassion, being there for each other, trying to understand. These things stretch me. There’s always plenty of opportunities to practice.

I love the memory my body has. If I haven’t done Pilates for a while, when I start again my body really remembers the cues and the exercise itself. I’m proud of muscle memory.

I love how my body walks, runs, jumps and plays.

I love the strength in my body. I have a muscular body. I like being strong. It’s very important to me. I’d hate to not be a strong person.

Some people identified features they love

I’ve always really appreciated my skin.

I like my feet. They’re a good size. I can fit into Cinderella slippers.

I happen to like my wrists. They’ve always been interesting to me. I enjoy wearing bracelets on them.

I appreciate my hands. They’ve changed in looks but my appreciation for them hasn’t changed.

 

Loving a quality of my personality

I love my playful nature

I like my cheekbones.

Growing up I didn’t have great body image. But now my body type is one of the hottest body types of this time. I naturally have a full butt and thighs and a teeny tiny waist. I can wear a real woman’s dress and look great.

I like my shoulders. I’ve always had good posture. I play classical piano.

I love my eyes because they change colors depending on what colors I wear.

I don’t mind my wobbly parts. I don’t feel like I have to be a size 2 to be beautiful.

I love my eyebrows. I don’t have to do anything with them.

I love my hair. It does it’s own thing which is nobody else’s thing.

When something fits my body really well, I feel wonderful.

My boobs.

Apparently I have a nice butt because people say that.

 

Now, my friends, it’s your turn. Tell me what you love about your body. Don’t hold back!

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12 Comments

  • Reply
    Rose
    February 14, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    Wow, interesting question. Never really thought about it but here goes:
    I love my eyes–big, brown almond-shaped. I love my smile–people say I have a smile that can light up a room. I love my skin–I can see the wrinkles and age spots developing but others tell me I have beautiful skin. I love my hands–they look like my Mom’s with slender fingers and long nail beds which makes my nails look longer than what they are. I enjoy wearing rings on both hands, many of which hold dear memories of family members and my first husband long gone. I love that I have long legs even though I’m short in statute, which helps to make me appear a little taller. I love that I have small feet which makes it difficult to shop for shoes, but at the same time most shoes look great on and I never look like I have two big boats as feet. I love that I have a pretty proportioned body and have tried to keep it healthy by exercising and making good choices with food on most days. I love my breasts which have had a few minor breast biopsies performed and so far everything is fine and I must say they’re still perky even though I’m almost 63 years old.
    There’s many things I wish were different but I try not to dwell on them but that’s not always easy to do. This was a good exercise in looking at the positives.

    • Reply
      Brenda
      February 14, 2017 at 3:31 pm

      Thanks, Rose, for sharing this. I LOVE hearing women speak about the things they love about themselves. I agree, it’s not easy for people or maybe it’s easy on some days and hard on other days. I may be idealistic but I’d love to wipe self-criticism out of our consciousness forever. LOVE this!

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    Suzanne Dekyvere
    February 14, 2017 at 3:08 pm

    Ohhhhhh I love this topic – all too often we focus on our perceived negative attributes and pay scant attention to the positive.
    I love my eyes, my skin – in fact my face!
    xxx

    • Reply
      Brenda
      February 14, 2017 at 3:32 pm

      Thanks, Suzanne, for sharing with us. Yes, I know you’d agree that women would feel so much more relaxed and comfortable if they were easier on themselves. Let’s change the world!

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    jodie filogomo
    February 14, 2017 at 4:18 pm

    This is exactly what we should be focusing on in life—not the negative. In fact, Marie-Claire asks this question to a pageful of women, and it’s so nice to hear the good things instead of complaints!!
    As for me, I’m a Pollyanna, so I would answer “everything”.
    jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • Reply
      Brenda
      February 15, 2017 at 9:33 am

      I love that! May we all embrace a touch of Pollyanna!

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    Cathy D.
    February 14, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    I couldn’t stop thinking about this all afternoon, and finally decided what I love best about my body is my general good health. I’m one of the few people I know of my age who doesn’t need any prescription medication. I have normal blood pressure, great cholesterol, and am neither pre-diabetic nor diabetic. I do have some arthritis, but it seems to be under control. I love feeling well. That said, I also love my natural golden blond hair, even though it now has a few touches of white. My hairdresser says people pay huge amounts of money for my hair color. I also love my skin, which is unblemished, even though there are some wrinkles. But who cares?

    • Reply
      Brenda
      February 15, 2017 at 9:33 am

      There’s a saying about health — which I’m not remembering at the moment, but it is everything, isn’t it? I always was known for my hair but it never looked better than when I stopped highlighting and coloring it and went au naturale. In my mind’s eye I can see those touches of white in your hair and those wrinkles and they look great on you!!!!

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    Fannie
    February 15, 2017 at 5:20 am

    Definitely my eyes. They are my father’s eyes so I can look in the mirror any time I want and see him there.

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      Brenda
      February 15, 2017 at 9:29 am

      That is gorgeous! I feel like that about my lips–Mother’s lips. Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply
    Kimber
    February 19, 2017 at 10:33 am

    Lovely post and food for thought..As I’ve gotten older what I love about my body has changed ( my face too) I use to dislike being so thin and the short girl. As I’ve aged I like my petite frame.I use to hate my crooked pinky fingers but now I see my darling grandmothers hands. For years I wouldn’t wear sandals because as a former ballerina I have had many broken toes , lost toe nails ect.. not the prettiest of feet for sure but now I think these feet danced across the stage and did it w/ grace ! That is something to be proud of ! So if someone is ” looking at my somewhat knarly toes well who cares! I love my body because it’s strong and it house my soul !

    • Reply
      Brenda
      February 19, 2017 at 6:30 pm

      This is so gorgeous, Kimber. Thank you for sharing all about your body including the gnarly toes. I find it fascinating how we really can fall in love with new things as we get older. In fact, we can fall in love with ourselves!

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