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What’s to love about a body heading into the Medicare years?

Loving my body past midlife

My body loves Nature


I overheard a woman talking to a friend about her body. She was disgruntled about the changes it was going through. You’ve probably experienced these things, too.

  • Her butt was flatter than it used to be (I can relate!)
  • No matter what she did, she couldn’t find her waistline (stuff shifts!)
  • Her knees complained when she walked downhill (uh-huh!)
  • “These bosoms!” she said (bigger, even if other parts got smaller)

Bodies are definitely in flux as we hid that midlife mark and go beyond it. I’m thinking of a client who was a Jazzercise teacher in younger years. She’s had two hip replacements. Who would have thought that those rigorous things we did in our twenties and thirties could have repercussions in our fifties and sixties? Yet another client is experiencing more muscle definition in her 70’s than she’s ever had. Bodies are amazing things!

I remember how surprised I was while getting dressed in front of my full-length mirrored closet doors a couple of years ago. Usually I’m focused on creating an outfit I’ll love wearing all day long, but that day I saw a complete side profile of myself in underwear. Where was my butt? I mean, really, where did it go? I did a few double takes. I remembered the round butt I was famous for. It wasn’t a J-Lo butt. You remember when her butt was the new gold standard of butts, right? Now even butts can be surgically augmented to be bigger than Nature provided. Who saw that coming?


Appreciating the body on BrendaKinsel.com

Enjoying my senses; thank you body


Not me.

I’m surgically phobic so what you see is what there is to see. It’s all me.

I realize that’s not everyone’s choice. I respect a woman’s choice to do what she deems right for her.

I can’t say I’m dismayed about having an aging body. It just is what it is, and I’m so happy to be here. Having faced a life-threatening disease, I’m quite aware of each day I have the pleasure of participating in. I can’t take that for granted.

I have my moments just like everyone else. I’ve joked that I prefer how my face looks in a mirror when my glasses are off. My stigmatism makes everything blurry.


Coming of age

This is a special week for me. I’m days away from using my Medicare card for the first time. I signed up last month because June is my birthday month.

Medicare. Me. Wow. That’s kind of a milestone, right?


Appreciating hands on BrendaKinsel.com

Crooked fingers are A-okay with me


So to my soon-to-be sixty-five-year-old body, I have a few things to say.


I love your resilience! It sucked to have that endless respiratory thing that was going around this spring but gosh darn it, you got me through it!

That black and blue mark I got from hitting the corner of the glass dining room table is nearly gone. Your healing properties are awesome.

I especially love how I feel on days when I clock in 22,000 steps on my Fitbit. I feel so energized!

I’m still in training to love the days when you just don’t have your get up and go. I’m realizing that doing nothing is actually doing something wonderful.

I’m amazed at how taking a walk in Nature can quiet my busy mind, put a smile on my face, and make me feel good about what I’m doing with my life.

Thank you for my eyes that can see the beauty all around me.

Thank you for my nose. I just bought corn at the market and the smell of it took me right back to the cornfields near our farmhouse in Hastings. Such wonderful memories come to me with this nose. And it’s great for knowing when the vegetables are done.

I love how good my hearing is and how it recognizes the soothing voices of my loved ones.

Thank you for these fingers that have gotten a little crooked. I’m quite fond of their imperfection. I don’t know what I’d do if I couldn’t use them every morning to write my morning pages.

I know this is a short list but I want you to know that remembering you, respecting you, tending to you is an important part of this new chapter in my life. I know I suck at it sometimes and get myself into a tizzy, but I do know what brings me back: honoring you. I pray to seek ways to do that one day at a time.

Thank you Body!


What are you loving about your body at this age?




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  • Reply
    May 30, 2017 at 5:25 am

    I’m 71.5 years old. 🙂 Welcome to Medicare — it’s the best health insurance I’ve ever enjoyed. I think you’ll like it, too. But you weren’t really asking an insurance question, were you? 😉

    Thus far, what I’m grateful to my body for is its astonishing resilience and ability to recover from the abuse I’ve put it through simply by leaning in hard to life. Over the decades I’ve been sometimes kind to and sometimes rough on my body. But the the older I get, the better I am about “mindfulness” (paying attention to what my body is trying to tell me) and “self care” (giving my body what it needs so it can give me what I want).

    I’m certainly in better shape now than I was at your age. I weigh a lot less than I used to, have more muscles, better balance, more energy, and feel more comfortable in my skin.

    Those of us fortunate enough to reach these years in relatively good health should be full of nothing but gratitude for our great privileges that allowed this to happen.

    Finally, these days I find myself appreciating in new ways my dear mother who grew this body I inhabit and for feeding it nutritious foods when I was a child to strengthen it. I am the recipient of so many privileges she gifted to me. My gratitude to her continues to grow.

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      May 30, 2017 at 8:44 pm

      Oh my goodness, this letter is rich in so many ways. Reading these love notes about your body makes me feel more committed to be kind to mine. I need the reminders. I too have leaned in hard, too hard at times, and neglected it. I’m so glad we’re talking about this! Thank you for your words. And I am excited about enjoying this health care. For all my 30 plus years of self-employment, I’ve had private insurance that had big premiums. They don’t make it easy for us independent types. So I’ll enjoy the savings and maybe take this body somewhere lovely where it can relax and renew!

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    Maggie Fieger
    May 30, 2017 at 6:09 am

    Happy almost birthday! I turned 65 in February and am enjoying being an old lady. I retired because I had a job I didn’t love and am loving life!

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      May 30, 2017 at 8:45 pm

      “I’m enjoying being an old lady.” Precious! Well, here I am, joining you! In the old part. I love my job and will probably do it until it’s not an option. That’s a blessing too!

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    jodie filogomo
    May 30, 2017 at 6:21 am

    It’s funny because this isn’t the first time our body goes through changes, yet when we were adolescents, we looked forward to the differences that would happen! I think it’s important to love these new changes too and look at everything with rose colored glasses—we are blessed to be alive, right?
    It all depends on our perspective, eh?? 🙂

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      May 30, 2017 at 8:46 pm

      We sure are blessed!

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    Amy Roseveare
    May 30, 2017 at 9:05 am

    Love this post, Bren! And happy birthday, my friend!! xoxo

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      May 30, 2017 at 8:46 pm

      Hey, Sweetheart! Thanks!

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    May 30, 2017 at 10:46 am

    Brenda, my beloved mom would have turned 75 this year…I feel like her spirit expresses itself, and holds my hand, through your words. Thank you!

    Now that I’ve written that, it seems kinda creepy – you are 10 years younger than my mom and your own awesome woman. I think, what it is is a feeling of kinship.

    Blessed be. ~ Mar

    (BTW, my husband gets his Medicare starting in August – we have just over a decade [14 years] in age difference).

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      May 30, 2017 at 10:47 am

      Oh great…autocorrect changed my name

      ~ Mare

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        May 30, 2017 at 8:48 pm

        Tee hee! I made the adjustment in my mind. You’re still Mare!

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      May 30, 2017 at 8:48 pm

      I am honored to be kin in spirit with you and your mom! Gosh, she was so young. I truly am sorry for your loss. Our moms are such a force. Like you I bet, she’s in my thoughts every single day.

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    May 30, 2017 at 5:56 pm

    Happy Birthday Brenda!!!! I mark the start of my year on my birthday (forget New Years Eve…). So look forward to a new beginning on yours…so much potential and adventure awaits! Enjoy!
    I will turn 61 this year and am less afraid to step into my sixties because of your wonderful blogs with so much life and vitality. I hope to get and keep your awesome life view.
    I am hearing impaired and wear bilateral aides so I am blessed to have such great technology at my disposal so I can still “hear”. I am grateful that I can walk, move and see Gods beauty around me. Like your other readers above I am amazed that to spite my neglect and abuse at various times of my life…my body is still doing its job!! Gratitude is my word for this year.
    Again, enjoy your day and the year to come!

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      May 30, 2017 at 8:52 pm

      Thanks Kathy! I so appreciate your shares about you and your body. My Russ is also hearing impaired. He went to all those glorious concerts in San Francisco in his youth around the Summer of Love and beyond. He too is really blessed with the latest technology that makes it better. Gratitude. I just took a deep breath reading that word. A great word for me and my 65th year. Thanks for sharing!

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    May 30, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    My body – It gives and receives hugs and kisses. It plays with my granddaughter and dog while also doing the “work” I need it to do (mostly). It lets my enjoy being alive. As you said, I see & smell the world, I touch and taste, I think and create memories. At at the same time it challenges me in new ways such as why does that one toe always hurt? My body asks that I feed it well, exercise it as I am able to do, take it new and old places, and generally treat it as the lifelong friend it is.

    Happy Birthday and welcome to the 65+ club Brenda.

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      May 30, 2017 at 8:54 pm

      Thank you, Juhli! Glad to be in the club. We have much to celebrate. I love reading what your body does for you. “A lifelong friend.” Those are three powerful words with a very lasting image. Thanks for sharing them with me and all these great readers!

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    May 31, 2017 at 4:04 am

    Brenda I can relate to your post, I too will be turning no 65yrs on 6/22. I am still working in the pharmaceutical industry however meeting woman like yourself who look good in fashion had inspired me in so many ways! When is your birthday?

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      May 31, 2017 at 11:06 am

      Cynthia, we’re one day apart! My birthday is on June 21st. I’m so happy to be offering some inspiration. Happy Birthday Month to you!

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    Nicole K
    May 31, 2017 at 12:19 pm

    Happy Birthday Brenda! I am surrounded by June birthday people! Love all of them. So many things shifting and changing in my body these days, it’s tough to get my brain to catch up. It’s funny how we get stuck seeing ourselves “without our glasses” and are surprised when our aging body comes into focus. I stand up tall, sling on the minimizer bra and move on (while I still can)! This was a day I needed to be reminded of all the things it’s doing for me and send it some love and gratitude. Many thanks for the reminder.

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    Cathy Lawdanski
    June 5, 2017 at 2:54 am

    Such wise words, Brenda. I choose (most days) to be thankful for all the things my body can still do. I can still get around, play with my grandkids and last week lifted a 70 lb. barbell above my head. I don’t think I could do that when I was 20. There are plenty of imperfections that I could focus on, but I choose not to!

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      June 6, 2017 at 8:11 am

      I really like your philosophy! And wow on the barbell lift! I need to find a sport or activity that I can grow more strength. This is very inspiring to me, Cathy!

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    Katherine Cramer
    June 10, 2017 at 2:30 pm

    Joyeaux Anniversaire Cherie
    You have a few years of wisdom ahead of me. Like Kathy, I will turn 61 (in July) and have been reviewing what this decade may bring. My first year of the age-60 decade brought health considerations that surround me and my small family circle. What an ‘in-your-face’ reminder to extend compassion to myself, outward–as well as be mindful of all the ways gratitude consciousness can heal. Brenda, thank you for your words and those of your readers. What a loving Community!

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      June 13, 2017 at 3:57 pm

      You always remind me with your beautiful words to be aware of gratitude and compassion. I think we need more of that from 60 on. It’s great you’re thinking about this. And I agree with you: I LOVE this LOVING community! Yay that we’ve found each other!

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    Denise Lampron
    August 5, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    Happy belated birthday. How are you feeling after a few months in your 65-year young body? I bet your beloved body is appreciating your poem of gratitude toward it. I think our bodies hear and digest our thoughts and words about it.
    I’m loving and celebrating my body every morning for being my most powerful vehicle, for being a channel to wisdom and sparks of intuition. I often feel my body is a conduit to the Universe, like a personal temple. I’ve learned that my body is a process, not a structure and that process is always in flux with miraculous abilities. Thank you for carrying this torch of aging so beautifully. We are educating younger generations of women that vitality is possible way beyond 50.

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    August 17, 2019 at 1:36 pm

    Love it! I’m 57 and definitely relate. Thank-you for the reminder to be thankful.

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