What happens when you step outside of your fashion comfort zone and do something you’ve never done before? I’m talking about wearing something deliberately, in public, that makes you feel uncomfortable.
I did this last week. I left my comfort zone for a day and wore something that I was both attracted to but fearful of: going all the way with orange.
This much orange at one time was unprecedented
If you’ve been following my blog you know how my orange crush began. It was a blind date, a set up. I was looking for a new lipstick color. Elina, the manager of the beauty department at Nordstrom, Corte Madera pulled out a Hot Orange lipstick crayon by Bobbi Brown.
She applied it, leaned back, smiled and was very satisfied.
I looked in the mirror and was terrified. I started shaking my head NO.
I argued. She held her ground. I bought the lip color.
I started getting compliments immediately.
It’s been a love affair ever since.
Trying new things can be scary
As a personal stylist I’m creating fabulous outfits every week for my clients.
Sometimes clients embrace my ideas immediately and tease me that they want the appointment to come to an end so they can walk right out the door and live life in their new outfit with no delay.
Other times they squirm; they’re not sure; they’re hesitant.
I see their nervousness as a temporary speed bump. I always reassure them by saying, “Wear it this week. You’ll be uncomfortable for thirty minutes and then the compliments will start coming in and your anxiety will be gone.”
They follow through, get compliments and they’re proud of themselves afterwards.
The Personal Stylist meets the timid client
I’ve gotten more and more comfortable with the color orange and have added pieces to my wardrobe, slowly. I have at least three orange things in my closet.
The morning when I came up with the idea to wear my newly acquired orange skirt with my orange sweater, the “personal stylist” in me was gleeful. She thought this was a brilliant idea.
Awesome! A column of orange. Fabulous!
This is so ladylike, so Carolina Herrera!
The lines are simple and clean. It’s so sophisticated.
You look smart, intelligent. You look vibrant!
The “client” in me felt so exposed, so naked, so uncomfortable bringing attention to herself like this. She had other very loud thoughts.
It’s BRIGHT ORANGE! All over!
Who wears head-to-toe orange? Not someone like me!
Rene Russo could do this but not Brenda Kinsel. No way!
In public? Are you kidding me? You expect me to wear this in public?
And then the personal stylist in me said, “Brenda, wear it today. You’ll be uncomfortable for thirty minutes. By then you’ll be receiving compliments and your nervousness will go away. I promise.”
The Personal Stylist was right about the compliments
I was meeting a client at Nordstrom for a shopping trip. When I walked in the door, a department manager spotted me and walked toward me. She said, “Brenda! Look at you all in orange! You look great!”
I went upstairs and started pulling clothes for my client. Sales associates came up to me and complimented me. Love your outfit!
And then strangers stopped me and said. “You look so great. You should be wearing that color every day!”
The personal stylist in me was right! The compliments did start flooding in!
Did BK, the client, settle down?
I wouldn’t say I was completely comfortable even after a few hours. It’s a lot of color! But I was quietly proud of myself for daring to do what I thought I couldn’t do.
A day or two passed and I remembered about other times when I did things that seemed so outside of my comfort zone and how my pulse rate stays very normal when I wear them now.
- Hats. I thought I was NOT a hat person. I was scared at first, but now I adore them.
- Leopard print. I thought I’d NEVER wear leopard print; too racy, too daring. Leopard print is practically a neutral color to me now.
- Colored glasses. When Nancy at Uber Optics asked me to try on these blue frames I thought NO WAY. They very quickly became YES WAY.
So how about you: Have you worn things that were outside of your comfort zone? Did you warm up to the new ideas? You’re here to tell the tale, right?
Tell me how it worked out!