As some of you know, I meet with two other image consultants once a month to brainstorm, share resources, go on field trips and just enjoy each other’s delightful company. It’s a tradition that’s been going on for nearly ten years! This month, we had a guest member join us, Nicole who was visiting from New York. What fun we had! On one of the prettiest days in the wine country, we enjoyed a late September afternoon lunch at Bardessono, my favorite (and beautiful!) hotel and spa in Yountville.
What better place to bring up a question that’s been on my mind. I think about beauty, as in how we put ourselves together using clothes and accessories in a pleasing way, and I think, “Why would anyone bother?” It’s the devil’s advocate question you already know how I feel about the subject. I’ve written countless articles, newsletters and books about it. I think beauty is a salve for the soul and the reward for living what can be a challenging life.
Certainly, there is plenty of evidence out there that people don’t bother! It hurts my eyes from time to time when I see it. Yet, there have to be compelling reasons to bother and I wondered what my cohorts thought about the subject.
We’re a group that believes from personal experience as well as professional experience, that you feel better about yourself and what’s in front of you to do today when you look sharp, pulled together, and inviting. But what really compels someone to make the effort?
Nicole made the point that if you spend your day social networking, you could be in your jammies all day. Who would know the difference? But she lives in New York and certainly, when you walk out onto the streets, there are people who are dressed and inspiring to look at. That alone can create the impetus to make an effort.
Other contributions to the discussion —
Lynn: “I’m living my life once so I need to make it an event. I’m going to grab the gusto and put on something I love to wear. I’m not that tied into what others are doing. They have their one life to live and that’s fine.”
Marj: “I like being surrounded by color, texture, interest and creativity. I just think it pleases other people to look nice.”
Nicole: “Fashion and beauty isn’t easy and if you don’t know how to do it, it becomes a chore. Maybe in their hearts, people want to look good but they’re worried it’s going to cost too much.”
I know that beauty doesn’t have to cost a fortune, style can be developed, dressing well can be learned. And I think it’s worth the effort. Please, would you share your thoughts on the subject? I’d love to know what do you think. Why do you make the effort or not?